31 Oct Acknowledging Your Personal Strengths and Successes
Do you make a note of your strengths and successes? Or do you, like many of us, focus on the things we can’t do and the mistakes we make? It’s never a good experience to only focus on the negative. It doesn’t make us better.
Having this sort of focus only creates a cycle of self-deprecation that is as harmful to the psyche as it is to our chances for success. By changing our focus onto your strengths, we have it allows us to create new skills and capabilities that we might otherwise have overlooked.
Every day we utilise our various strengths without giving them a second thought, but when we have a bad day and everything seems to go wrong, we tend to forget these and focus more on what we are not good at and that can cloud our thoughts and judgements.
When I am working with clients who are struggling with acknowledging their strengths and not feeling good about how well they are doing in their lives – be it work, social or relationships – then I suggest that they take some time in their day to note down all the positive things that have happened in the day. Here’s an idea of some of the things I am referring to:
- I solved that problem in a cool and informed way
- My co worker (add name) told me that they really appreciated my support today
- I did not raise my voice when (add name) was late with a deadline for the third time this month
Write each of these successes down on a piece of paper and put them into a jam jar, or glass vase and leave them on your desk, or somewhere where you can see them. Then when you are questioning your strengths or focusing only on negatives, take a look at the jar and remember all the good things that have happened and think again. Keep it going and keep building that jar of positivity. Why not drop me a line and let me know how it goes?: firstname.lastname@example.org
Good luck and have fun with those successes and discover how they can change your world and the way you do things going forward.